You hustle, you achieve, you rest a little bit, and then you keep moving. But do you ever stop long enough to examine the stories you tell yourself? Stories (or really, lies) that might be quietly sabotaging your success and relationships?
I just had an enlightening conversation about emotional health, and I want to share what I learned. Essentially, how can you become an emotionally healthy adult?
Is Imposter Syndrome Real?
One of the first powerful topics we dove into was imposter syndrome, which is the belief that you’re a fraud. Even when you have all the credentials, experience, and expertise to succeed, imposter syndrome convinces you that you’re not good enough and you don’t have what it takes.
Sound familiar?
It often shows up when you’re pushing yourself into uncharted territory—starting a business, putting yourself out there, chasing big dreams. The more you step into the spotlight, the more vulnerable you become to criticism, whether from others or, more often, from yourself.
The irony is that most people experiencing imposter syndrome are more than capable. The problem isn’t a lack of ability, it’s a lack of belief.
Identifying the Lies You Tell Yourself
Here’s the moment that stopped me in my tracks: someone asked me, “What limiting beliefs are you allowing to control your life without even realizing it?”
I had to sit with that question. And when I did, I realized I’d been repeating a lie to myself over and over: “I don’t have enough time.”
It hit me like a ton of bricks. Time hasn’t changed. There are still 24 hours in a day, just like there were six weeks ago, before my emergency surgery threw me off my routine. What changed was how I was feeling about my time—and how I was allowing that feeling to control me.
Here’s what I realized: the belief that “I don’t have enough time” wasn’t just a feeling. It was a lie. And every time I repeated it, I was giving it more power over my life.
How Limiting Beliefs Feed Imposter Syndrome
When we believe lies like “I don’t have enough time” or “I’m not good enough,” it creates a spiral. We start doubting our abilities. We overwork ourselves, thinking that doing more will make us feel more worthy. We burn out. And the cycle continues.
But here’s the truth: your worth is not tied to your productivity. Who you are is not defined by how many hours you work or how many tasks you check off your list.
For me, I had to remind myself that I’ve been preparing my whole life for the roles I’m in now—CEO, wife, mother. I am not doing this alone. I have a team, a partner, and most importantly, I have God walking with me every step of the way.
So why was I letting myself believe otherwise?
The Power of Awareness and Intention
The first step to overcoming these lies is awareness. You have to recognize the belief for what it is—a lie. Then, you can start to replace it with truth.
Here’s what I did:
- Pause and Reflect: I asked myself, “What lies am I believing right now?”
- Speak Truth to the Lies: I wrote down the evidence that disproved my limiting belief. For example, my time hasn’t changed; what’s changed is how I’m prioritizing it this season.
- Make a Plan: Once I saw the lie for what it was, I could take action. I could shift my mindset and intentionally move forward with confidence, not fear.
Give Yourself Permission to Feel
One of the biggest takeaways from my conversation about emotional health was the importance of making space for your feelings. We’re so quick to suppress emotions, to distract ourselves with work, Netflix, or social media. But when was the last time you allowed yourself to just sit with your feelings and process them?
Take five minutes today to pause and ask yourself:
• What feelings am I experiencing?
• What lies am I believing?
• What is the truth?
And then, speak truth into the lie. Write it down. Say it out loud. Do whatever it takes to remind yourself of what’s real.
You Are Enough
If there’s one thing I hope you take away from this, it’s this: you are already enough. Your worth isn’t tied to how much you do, how perfectly you perform, or how others perceive you.
You have what it takes to do the work that’s been placed in front of you. And if you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, start by taking five minutes to recognize the lies and replace them with the truth.
If you’re ready to dig deeper into overcoming limiting beliefs and building confidence in who you are, let’s talk. Schedule a Free Brand Call with Brand Builders Group today and we’ll figure out how to align your life and business with the truth of who you are.
You’re not an imposter. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.
